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Ever been in a relationship that doesn’t work out? Boy, let me count the ways and the number. Nope, I can’t count high enough.
Whose fault was it? Do you say to yourself, “How could it ever be mine?” I am perfect aren’t you?
Ever had a boss who finally drove you to quit?
Ever decide that it was time to end a romantic relationship or a marriage?
Ever had a friend that you no longer wanted to be friends with?
Whose fault was that? It couldn’t have been yours. You and I are perfect, aren’t we?
Why did these relationships end? Could the breaks have been prevented? Probably some yes and some no. Could we have done something to prevent these relationships from going south? Same thing. Some yes and some no.
We chose to be in these relationships most of the time.
Why would relationships be important to Success Philosophy?
You can’t do it alone, and you are in relationships all of your life. Even if you are a hermit, you have to have a relationship with yourself. Do you like yourself?
Is that where we need to go first, to ourselves? How could that be, I am perfect, aren’t you?
But you are the beginning of all your relationships. There are also some relationships that can be dangerous to you, people who don’t share your same values, or character. You should make new friends if the people around you don’t share the same values and character.
The people we choose to be around have a profound effect on us, one way or the other, even including the relationship that we have with ourselves.
So you have to deal with difficult people. You have to deal with people that are emotional twits. You have to deal with a lot of people, but you don’t have to have a relationship with them.
If you have a boss who is a jerk, you can make the best of it, and when you leave work find a relationship that gives you what you want.
We choose what relationships that we are in. If you are in a bad one, get out. But first examine yourself to make sure you’re not the cause. If you can say, “Why does this always happen to me?” it generally means the problem is something about you and the way you see life.
Look, we all have to deal with difficult people, but we don’t have to be one.
When you find yourself having relationship problems look to yourself first, and the other person second, and if the other person does not fit your values and isn’t willing to work on the necessary change, its time to leave.
I know it’s not as easy as it sounds, but a clean break from something or someone that brings you down can be really good for you.
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