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I find it fascinating that when I work with people and start the process of helping them to take over their lives, define goals, develop the character that they want, zero in on the values that they want to live by, and define themselves within the concepts of the Four Dynamics, one of the biggest hurdles that I usually face after a few sessions is the fear of success. You got it - the fear of success.
“What happens if I become successful?”
“Are my inadequacies going to be revealed in front of the whole world? As long as I stay down, below all radar, not being a success but muddling along in life, I don’t have to worry about how "they" are going to find me out, that I don’t deserve the success that I have. I am not that person but the person who is now really afraid of failure, because I have some success! They are going to find out that I am unworthy and that I am an imposter. I am really empty inside and what is happening to me is just good luck.”
“When something good happens to me, I know I will have to pay for it in some way.” “If things go too well, I know someone is going to spoil it for me.” “When I feel too good, I know something bad is going to happen.” “It just always happens to me, you know... the bad luck just as things start to go right.”
What do I mean by the fear of success? The feeling that you don’t deserve success, coupled with the fact that you now have to keep success going.
By practicing success coaching the way we have laid it out, you can overcome these feelings of fear of success and create some success for yourself that you can be proud of and say, “Yep, I did that, and no matter what happens after that, I was successful.”
If you don’t try to be successful because of fear that you will eventually fail, you won’t try to do anything, and just keep a low profile. So go ahead and break out today!
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