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I got a lot of mail about the article Fear, Love, Success and Ice Cream. I was talking about love and fear, and how hate was a product of our fear.
Did I get the mail! People said, “I DO hate ice cream and a lot of other things too!” I pointed out that they really didn’t hate ice cream. They just didn’t like it. (By the way who doesn’t like ice cream? Maybe vanilla isn’t your favorite favor, but something is probably to your taste). But that was not the point. I was trying to explain the relationship of hate and prejudice, and how a whole class of people can be blurred into one concept of a mental model of one person or a group of people, and how this can affect your world and the people and things in your world in a negative light.
Whole peoples have been victims of prejudice, and irrational fears take over and we start defining people because of their race, color and creed.
This is indeed dangerous to Success Philosophy.
Prejudice is irrational thinking toward people, and creates bad energy that doesn’t allow you to focus on the individual, and that is the really important thought. It is not about broad-brushing a people, but understanding the individual.
Why do we have prejudices? Some people would argue with me that they hate a race of people. I don’t see how that can be possible when each person is an individual, and is different from everyone else. Why do we broad-brush people with prejudicial hate? From fear. We can’t know an individual by their race, color or creed. Something else has triggered us into this hate, and I have found that deep-rooted fear of something is the answer. This could be the environment, family, peer groups, but some kind of fear that is taught to us by others in our mental model is the basis for this irrational thought in our mental model of the world.
The last place I was fortunate to manage, we undoubtedly had the most diversity of any work place were I have been. It was very much like the United Nations in Los Angeles from people from every part of the globe, and every part of the country.
I have to share with you the first year was very tough for me, because there was racial, culture, and ethical tension.
I had to let the people that had extreme prejudices move on, and the people that were left, we had to initiate a new sensitivity and understanding among our people that everyone creates our environment and participates in our success.
There is no room for fear that produces hate among people if you are going to be successful in business.
America was called the melting pot over 200 years ago for a reason, and I have to tell you the melting pot has gotten bigger and more diverse, and this is good.
We can all learn from each other and have success if we don’t have these irrational thoughts about other people that we don’t know.
Do you not like some people, yes, but it should happen after you meet them and get to know them as individuals; not because of their race, color, or creed. Perhaps we are the only person that doesn’t like someone, and the rest of the world does like this person.
I mean, take politics; do you know the irrational fears of some people that turn to hate towards politicians? I am amazed of what comes out of the mouths of babes and adults. The extremes just don’t make sense, and are often quite irrational. But to the person that holds an extreme mental model of the world, it is quite real.
Can we identify our fears? Yes, I would say that we can and should, so that we can reduce the negativity in our life.
If you say you hate something, then you should examine your hate and see if it is not attached to an irrational fear.
You can make a difference in your life, by examining what you don’t love, and eliminating that fear, prejudice or dislike in your life.
I believe you need to examine what you determine that you hate, and see if there are any fears attached to that feeling. If your fears are real, then you should examine what you can do to minimize these fears, because fear will leave you nothing.
Fear creates hate in your mind and heart.
Love creates, and hate destroys. To have success we must create love, and feel good. Hate makes you feel angry and sad. Break out for success, and try to get another ray of love in your being.
Yes you may not like something, but that is after you have tried it, not before. And if you don’t like something why not just avoid it, and live and let live. Who cares about your fears and hate anyway? Nobody.
Examine your hate, and see if it is an unfounded fear, that you can turn around in your mental model of life. Stop being the boss of the world. Stop judging. Educate yourself and learn about people and their cultures. Create a positive in your relationships, and in your heart and mind.
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