What, you don’t think so? Do you think you are a loser?

Well, anyone can be a loser, but only if they want be. Yep, that’s right. Only if you want to be.

If you are a loser, why is that? Is it because someone told you that you are a loser? Are you failing at something that you want to succeed in?

If someone tells you that you are a loser, you don’t have to listen to him or her. If anyone says anything negative about you it is just information, it is not a belief unless you believe it.

Why would you be a loser? You have plenty of control of your mind to change that perception. No one is good at everything. Concentrate on what you want to do and be.

At the office last week we had to cut some new pictures of our latest CD’s. I did not do very well and exclaimed that I couldn’t do it. My Executive Vice-President said that the group didn’t work for Life Motivations because I could do arts and crafts.

I did go back later and complete one picture, kind of as a matter of honor.

So I took my time and did the task. Will I do it again? Hope not. It is a waste of time and money for me to do arts and crafts when I should be working on the multitude of other things that will be more important to all concerned.

Just because you are not good at something doesn’t make you a loser. There are plenty of things that you will discover you are good at. You just have to discover them.

Life is an adventure, and finding things that you enjoy and are good at is part of the adventure. You need to try new things, and let your hair down every once in a while.

Just because you fail doesn’t make you a loser. It just means that you need to find new opportunities, and make adjustments.

In the LA Times the other day, there was a big article about coaches in the NFL that have lost more playoff games than they have won. The article said that these coaches were losers and many of them would be probably fired at the end of the season. The reality is that these coaches had to be pretty darn good to get their position in the first place, and they had to be among the best to get their teams into the playoffs. A lot of teams would like to be in the playoffs and didn’t make it, but these guys could lose their jobs if they don’t win the big one, despite by any measure being winners.

Wow, tough world.

Even most Presidents of United States get four years.

You are not a loser until you give up, and if you are forced to give up on something it doesn’t mean that you are loser. It just means you had a temporary defeat. You don’t have to give up at all.

And just because you fail at something, that doesn’t make you a loser. It just means that maybe arts and crafts are not your thing. Experiment in life and see what else you can do.

There are lots of examples of people failing all of their lives and then succeeding at something big.

And that is a good question to ask yourself, what do you want to do? What else is there for you to do?

When people are critical of you, it is okay to see if there is something in what they are saying so you can improve yourself, but discard the rest of it. Yes I know it may hurt when someone tells you that you’re not making it, but so what? Move forward and continue to live your life.

Open the next door and use the abilities that you have to move forward in life.

Lot’s of us are going to have disappointment in life. But if we are afraid of disappointment, then what will we do in life? What will we be?

What if those NFL coaches said, "I am not going to do that, I might fail and get fired." What if people said I’m not going to try that I might fail, so what?

When I failed at my car dealership I owned in the mid 1980s, and someone told me I was a loser, I looked back at them and said, "What have you done with your life? What successes have you had? At least I tried."

He had none. He was on the showroom floor selling cars and had medium success at best. He never owned a company, never led people. He had done nothing special, and yet he was calling me a loser.

So when someone calls you a loser, you might want to think about what kind of person is saying that to you. They might be the ultimate loser.

And on top of that they might have a lot of insecurity about themselves. Most people that have called me a loser had some issues. Why would someone want to say that to someone else?

You choose to accept change and take the risk necessary to live life. Be proud of yourself and don’t let other people tell you who you are. They probably don’t know who they are.

Do it, be it, understand it, develop it, and gain education. That is the Success Philosophy way.

You are a winner, and don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise.

See you next month…

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Ever been in a relationship that doesn’t work out?  Boy, let me count the ways and the number. Nope, I can’t count high enough. 

Whose fault was it? Do you say to yourself, “How could it ever be mine?” I am perfect aren’t you?

Ever had a boss who finally drove you to quit?

Ever decide that it was time to end a romantic relationship or a marriage?

Ever had a friend that you no longer wanted to be friends with?

Whose fault was that? It couldn’t have been yours. You and I are perfect, aren’t we?

Why did these relationships end? Could the breaks have been prevented? Probably some yes and some no. Could we have done something to prevent these relationships from going south? Same thing. Some yes and some no.

We chose to be in these relationships most of the time.

Why would relationships be important to Success Philosophy?

You can’t do it alone, and you are in relationships all of your life. Even if you are a hermit, you have to have a relationship with yourself.  Do you like yourself?

Is that where we need to go first, to ourselves? How could that be, I am perfect, aren’t you?

But you are the beginning of all your relationships.  There are also some relationships that can be dangerous to you, people who don’t share your same values, or character. You should make new friends if the people around you don’t share the same values and character.

The people we choose to be around have a profound effect on us, one way or the other, even including the relationship that we have with ourselves.

So you have to deal with difficult people. You have to deal with people that are emotional twits. You have to deal with a lot of people, but you don’t have to have a relationship with them.

If you have a boss who is a jerk, you can make the best of it, and when you leave work find a relationship that gives you what you want.

We choose what relationships that we are in. If you are in a bad one, get out. But first examine yourself to make sure you’re not the cause. If you can say, “Why does this always happen to me?” it generally means the problem is something about you and the way you see life.

Look, we all have to deal with difficult people, but we don’t have to be one.

When you find yourself having relationship problems look to yourself first, and the other person second, and if the other person does not fit your values and isn’t willing to work on the necessary change, its time to leave.

I know it’s not as easy as it sounds, but a clean break from something or someone that brings you down can be really good for you.

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